Non-offending mothers' pains, struggles, and coping responses with daughters' disclosure of incest: Basis for the development of a family support

Abstract

Non-offending mothers, in the aftermath of their daughters' intrafamilial sexual abuse, face various trials and challenges along with a range of emotional and psychological responses. Of particular interest in this study are the dimensions of their pains and struggles after their daughters' disclosure of incest. This study focused on eliciting non-offending mothers' views on the impact of incest disclosure on maternal level of functioning and mother-child attachment styles. The context of the study was outlined with the account of demographic profile as well as family dynamics and relationships. The various responses of non-offending mothers when their daughters disclosed that they have been sexually abused, especially when the perpetrator is their husband were explored using a phenomenological perspective. The study found out the five women in this qualitative study exhibited varied reactions which included hurt, betrayal, grief and loss, symptoms of distress, anger, initial disbelief, and fear as responses to their daughter's disclosure. The findings also showed that even in the midst of grief and distress, the mothers did believe, supported, and protected their children. These experiences, along with their unparalleled stories, provided an important significance in scheming immediate and long-term support programs in order to meet the needs of the non-offending mothers, children survivors, and their families. These support programs are designed to build their capability in coping with the situation and healing from the impact of intrafamilial sexual abuse. Understanding and giving importance to the realizations of mothers in dealing with their daughters' disclosure is an indispensable outcome of this study. Moreover, this study affirms that help, assistance, and intervention for non-offending mothers are vital in their healing and recovery. Empowering them as women and mothers would improve outcomes for their children and families as well.